Divorcing an Alcoholic Spouse
People can be pushed to their limits if their spouse denies their alcoholism and won’t seek help. Unfortunately, continuing to live in a distressing environment may become unsafe for the wellbeing of the spouses and children of alcoholics. At this point, divorce is an option. Michigan is a no fault state, so you don’t need evidence of an addiction to move forward with a divorce.
How do you know if you are at the end of your limit of trying to provide care to an alcoholic? Donna Thompson shares the thought process she evaluated before getting a divorce from her alcoholic spouse:
“Eventually, I came to terms with these beliefs:
- I was powerless over alcohol.
- I had stopped enabling it.
- I could stand on my head and spit nickels and have no effect on the alcoholic’s behavior.
- The alcoholic demonstrated no desire to change.
- The alcoholic appeared to be someone incapable of being honest, least of all with himself.
- I had stopped feeling and behaving as if I were a victim.
- I had the emotional strength to leave what had become a travesty of a marriage.”
If you can relate to these after some self-reflection it may be time to get a divorce. This is easier said than done. Many people avoid getting a divorce because of the guilt they feel of not being able to cure their spouse’s addiction. A person must find peace with these feelings of guilt in their own way, but they should know that they can’t control, cure, or cause the addiction. The emotional toll caused by alcoholism and divorce can be quelled with support and therapy. Make sure you are communicating with trusted friends and family so they can lend support and seek professional therapy to work through distressing thoughts.
The Marchese Law Firm Can Help
If you need guidance planning the first steps of divorce, The Marchese Law Firm is here to help. We have empathetic and professional attorneys that offer free consultations. Call us at 248-270-2709 to schedule a consultation or visit our online scheduler here. We are all too aware of the challenges that come with divorcing someone with an alcohol dependence and can execute the best strategies to get the best and safest outcome.