What advice would you give to families in order to minimize the overall impact of divorce on their children?
Understand that no matter what your spouse has done or how much you hate them, you will have to have a relationship with them for the rest of your life. You cannot make them go away. Your children are the most important thing in the world and your anger, resentment, and hatred will only make your children’s lives worse and will have long lasting and negative effects on them mentally, spiritually and physically. The most important advice we can give is that your children are not pawns in your divorce and that any manipulation, alienation, or other negative impacts that they see and hear, both directly or indirectly, will have long lasting detrimental impacts on your children. Even if you raised your kids the majority of the time, you take them to school and doctors appointments, make them lunches, and so on, your children have an absolute right to have a kind and loving relationship with both parents. This doesn’t diminish what you have done for your children and your role with them but it isn’t the determining factor when attempting to exclude a spouse from their care. Lastly, please try to remember that even if your spouse may be a terrible husband or wife, they may be the best possible parent for your children.